Relationship problems

I wrote a whole blog, and as luck would have it, it's completely erased by stupid blogger. Now i can only hope to summarize what was the longest blog i've ever written. Basically it was about tommy and me, our relationship. I initially ranted that he doesnt respect me because he's always late and never phones, shoots down all my decisions like going to brunch or walking around bullring, and then he played poker all night when he was supposed to come see me.
But i realized that what i consider to be disrespect stems from

1. my lack of appreciation for him and what he does for me
2. my lack of respect for his decisions and priorities
3. miscontrued little looks from me, and gestures from him which mean absolutely nothing but we've contructed into sinister things in our heads.
4. my refusal/failure to share my dreams and goals with him
5. disappointment when things don't go exactly as i've planned

I just need to realize that work is a priority for him, and instead of hating him for putting work before me, i need to appreciate his hard work ethic and praise him for it. I should appreciate the things he does for me instead of being bogged down by what he didnt do. And most of all, i should lower my expectations of him. He's already given me a good chunk of his life and commitment. He's introduced me to his parents, and didnt push me about introducing him to mine. He listens to me and loves me the best way he knows how. And the truth is, i've never ever loved someone so completely and utterly as i love him. God bless our relationship, and may i find the insight to always blog about my problems before confronting him in anger. I want to be a better person for him, and i want to show him all that i can be. I want to show him true beauty in me through my personality and character. Please god show me how i can do that.